Tuesday, May 21, 2013
Dealing With Emotions
In 1999, there was a movie out called "Boys Don't Cry," starring Oscar winning actress, Hillary Swank. It was about a transgendered female that lived her life as a boy and was even involved in a relationship with a girl. However the title of the movie is what causes debates about emotions in the first place. Therefore the question becomes is it ok for men to cry? It ok for even women to cry? Can couples cry in front of each other? Are we taught to be or not to be emotional or is it natural?
Men crying has been a stigma for as long as people first existed. Hypermasculinity is at the core of manhood for most men because of expectations of what it means to be a man. Whenever the term crying is floating around a guy it's related to words like weak, punk, sissy, woose, baby, and other words that could be considered too derogatory. At a young age a boy is taught to stand up for himself and to stop crying even if he is badly hurt. The expectation is the fact that men are suppose to be the protector and no matter what comes his way he is to defeat it even if he can't. When you look at disney movies or movies in general it teaches young boys that men are do-ers and have to save the world, protect the women and children, everything is action pack and touch. Therefore crying is a waste of time. Of course society allows men to cry only at funerals or finding out they themselves are dying. With everything else they are expected to man up.
No matter what situation is killing us inside it is important to find healthy ways to cope with our emotions and it is ok to cry. Crying can be healthy for your eyes and spirit. Sometimes you need a good cry to be stronger and goes for men and women. For some people if they hold their tears in too long it makes them go crazy because they never released their tension. At the same time what do you think? Is it ok for a man to cry at all? If you are in a relationships with a man can he cry in front of you? If so what is he allowed to cry about? When is he allow to cry? Can women cry in a relationship? When and what can she cry about? Feel free to express your thoughts.
Posted by TIAJ at 3:54 PM