Compatibility

 

 

How important is compatibility over chemistry? Some might argue chemistry. Others think compatibility, and some say both.

 

    The concept of compatibility has to do with being able to exist and perform in ways that is harmonious to others while still being yourself. The healthy dynamic of a compatible couple doesn't mean that they agree on everything or one person submits to the other, but simply that even if there is a conflict, it doesn't overshadows their bond or flow. This concept can be broken down in four types:

 

1. Physical

 

    It is important that underneath the congenial connection, that there is some sense of chemistry between each other. Attraction is one of the main motivations to maintain interest in someone that you admire. Usually if you are not that attracted to the person even if you like them, eventually you loose the chemistry.

 

2. Emotional

 

    Of course you can't rely too much on the physical without a connection. This doesn't mean you can't be only physical with someone, but as far as overall compatibility, being able to connect with someone on a deeper level makes a big difference in your chemistry. Vulnerability can be scary because it's risky. Not only are you allowing someone in, you are also risk feeling hurt, but if compatible with someone it can create trust.

 

3. Intellectual

 

    If there is a connection, the mental pretty much follows. Stimulation can go a long way especially if that is the one a person tends to feel close to someone. So much so that some people can't get feel any attraction or chemistry from someone if they are not stimulated intellectually. 

 

4. Eternal

 

    Within connecting with someone, you want to be able to bond with someone where you have mutual values. This usually applies to people who want more than just the surface, but a more fulfilling situation where there is a foundation of friendship that is full of trust and morals.

 

Wanting compatibility, chemistry or both depends on what you want for yourself. A person that only wants something physical or doesn't require so much mental energy will probably find more importance in chemistry VS a person what want a deeper connection. Compatibility is still necessary and applies to anyone with mutual intentions.