Thursday, May 23, 2013
Can A Couple Live Together Before Getting Married?
Cohabitation is very common amongst people especially those in just a sexual relationship. It tends to be more convenient for some financial and others might do it because they started off as roomates that had attraction for each other and they share all the living expenses. CNN reported that 23% of men and women move in for the sake of marriage. It was 30% in 2002 and 39% in 1995. In 2006, 40% of couples move in without the intentions of marriage but then later transition to marriage.
When it comes to abstaining until you're married while living together, majority would argue that it is almost impossible to do so. The number 1 reason is temptation. Think about it, if you spend the rest of your lives together and you are always around each other, it is too much of a tease to the other if not both people. Even if one of you is wearing something to bed that is unflattering to the other, the fact that you are laying next to each other or cuddling can easily set the other person off. Taking a shower in front of the other person is pretty much telling them you can come in. It all has to do with expectations when moving in. Even if both people agree to abstain, when there is attraction you natural want to act on that.
Another point a person would make is that when you are living before marriage, some people might get too comfortable and just go along with the marriage. Cohabitation and domestic partnerships have somewhat of the same qualities as a marriage just without a ring and paperwork. Aniticipating a marriage is more discouraging when you already have kids because it's like why change the title when you are already living in that title. This is not to say that if you are doing married things, you shouldn't actually get married, but most people are content with what's going on at the moment.
Do you think it's possible to live together without having sex? Did living together help you get married? Is living together before getting married a good idea? What do you think?
What if you your relationship or marriage is great until you live together and notice you two are not compatible, then what would you do?
Posted by TIAJ at 12:17 AM