Some people say women started this friendzone concept, but who knows who started it. Sometimes what starts off as a friendship becomes so much more without you guys even trying. There have been love stories where people have been best friends their entire life and then once they got older and have seen each other through the good and bad, feelings start to build and they end up going out. Years later they get married and maybe have some kids. Most people would like that to happen but it doesn't. Both men and women get caught in the friendzone and it can be so frustrating because they think the answer to their friend's problems is right in front of them and they just don' see it. Most of the time the friend notices but you could not be their type. There is even a show on MTV called "Friendzone" that shows friends where one person wants to confess to the other that they want to be more than friends.
Some of the reasons why men and women put each other in the friendzone are somewhat similar. It's certain aspects of the person is what differs between the two. When men put women in the friendzone, sometimes it's not just because he sees the girl as his sister or anything, it could be because he already has a girlfriend, but yet his female friend is in love with him. So of course out of respect for his girlfriend he has to keep other females in the friendzone. Other times it is simple because that's all he sees his female friend as just that, a friend and nothing more. It's so frustrating for the girl because either she grew an attraction for him and now she's crushing him or she probably started off liking him and now that they spend time together she falls in love.
So how do you get out of the friendzone?
Well, that's one of those things where it depends on the friends once again. Some people say just have sex with each other and that ends the friendship. The problem with that is it might be awkward around your mutual friends especially if you guys act funny around your peers. Other people might say just go on one date to see where it takes the relationship. Most of the time once you are in the friendzone, you are pretty much stuck there. You could potentially give yourself a makeover and look like the type that your friend likes, but majority of the times in either doesn't work or again the person doesn't want to ruin the friendship. Who knows maybe the person might come around or if you ever watched the show, "Moesha" you remember that Hakeem and Moesha finally took their friendship to another level once they hit college. They were best friends all of their life and then Hakeem realized that he can fall in love with Moesha, luckily she felt the same way. Until then don't do anything crazy and keep the current relationship healthy.
Here's a short film about the friendzone: